#The Teenager Child

Parenting teenagers can be both rewarding and difficult. Look at how much your child has developed and learned as they approach adulthood. Prioritize your bond and relationship with your teen while being proud of them. Additionally, rather than attempting to control or resolve your teen’s issues, serve as a sounding board for them. Teenagers will inevitably push boundaries, try new things, and even make poor decisions, but with your support and supervision, they will flourish.

The quality of your child’s relationships with their parents has a significant impact on their behaviour, even though you may not feel like you have much power over them these days.

In addition to being positively connected with academic performance and general pleasure as seen by the teen and those around her, good relationships between parents and their teenagers are also positively correlated with those relationships.

On the other hand, poor or tense parent-teen connections are linked to adolescent aggression (as perpetrator or victim), Stress, depression and alcohol use, and suicide.

WE CAN CONSIDER SOME OF THE POINTS:

• Understand The Role
  • We are not only a parent, a friend & family member.
  • Teenagers want the relationship to be like a friendship because they need the assurance that their parents love them unconditionally and understand them. However, they also need to feel some independence, so occasionally you could feel a little cut-off. Your child is more likely to open up and share with you if you can manage your proximity in a way that is accepting and doesn’t abuse your position as a parent to dictate what they should do.
  • Does your teen no longer respect you because of their close friendship? No. Don’t you value those who are there for you emotionally and respect your friends? You’ll get the respect, consideration, and genuineness you give your teen back if you do the same for them.
  • And no matter how close you want to be to your adolescent, you will occasionally need to draw rank and say No. It raises a red flag that something is a missing if you do it frequently. Your teen may, however, occasionally come to you to set boundaries that they are unable to set for themselves. Of course, there are occasions when your kid will be able to use your advice to find a win-win solution that addresses your worries.
  • Family meetings offer a place for discussing victories, grievances, sibling disputes, schedules, or any matter of significance to a family member. They are held on a regular basis at a mutually agreed-upon time. Ground rules are useful. Everyone has an opportunity to speak; one person speaks uninterrupted; everyone listens and encouraging, helpful criticism is permitted. Combine the gathering with rewards like pizza or ice cream afterward to entice rebellious kids to participate, or give them key jobs as recording secretary or rule enforcer
• Sometimes Teen Angriness are Natural
  • Very Important: Sometimes, specifically for girl child, Mother OR Older female in the family need to take care of child by discussing (menstrual) period related issues. During this period time teen may be having anger, indignation but parents must have to be aware that these are natural symptoms, we have to kind, to be taken easy & parents shall have continuous awareness to behave politely. Also need to take care by necessary supply of sanitary pads, period-proof underpants, tampons and/or a menstrual cup etc)
  • Above kind of situation can be tackles by not only awareness but by taking him at garden OR nearby natural space. Also you can ask him for normal deep breathing, YOGA can be a best solution for being all time happy.
• High level of Standards & Caring
  • Clearly define guidelines for what is acceptable. Teens need to know where you’re going, who you’re going with, and when you plan to come back. Setting boundaries shows that you care about her and that you care about her, and teens need clear guidelines just like children.
  • Your teen wants to be his best self. It is our responsibility as parents to help our children accomplish this. However, don’t expect your child to achieve the goals you’ve set; instead, she should start setting her own goals right away with the support of her parents, who value her as a person and think she can achieve anything she is. would like. Encourage your child as he pursues his interests and develops his voice.
  • A healthy diet and the nine and a half hours of sleep every teenager needs. Parents need reassurance. Teens should avoid coffee because it disrupts their normal sleep cycles. Children who spend too much time on screens have trouble falling asleep at night because melatonin is reduced, especially around bedtime.
  • Parent can verify/check the friends (Friend background also matters) of teenager child because those may be criminals OR having some hidden plan to misuse of teenage for anti-social activities.
  • Parents can promote for taking healthy & fresh foods rather than simply supplying Junk food, Packed foods.
  • If you observe some bad habits with your teens like smoking, drugs etc than Parent must give him high level of confidence & divert him for creative work like ARTS, YOGA, MEDITATION, SPORTS, MUSIC etc. You may engage him for some social activities like organizing – donating camps, Bird/Animal care program, Awareness program etc.
  • Remember If good things will increase then bad will automatically go.

• Disagreement is not a conflict
  • Express your interest in what your teenager does at home and at school. Provide assistance and direction with homework and revision. Watch where they go and who they are with, prod them to express their feelings, but watch out for turning interest into pressure.
  • Listening – Teenagers claim that their parents do not listen to them when they speak to them. Inform your Teenagers that you have some time to discuss. While sharing your values with them, avoid imposing them. Give your Teenagers some time to talk if they want to talk. Conflict with your teenager is not always a bad thing – your teenager is learning to become independent. Try to stay calm. Listen to your teenager’s point of view and decide what is worth taking a stand on and what isn’t.
  • Don’t expect teenagers to agree with everything you say. The teenage years are a time of testing opinions and people. Sometimes parents and teenagers have to agree to differ. Your teenager is more likely to respect your views if you respect theirs.
• Celebrations, Joy for Togetherness 
  • Whenever you can. Meals are a terrific time to catch up on the day’s events, relax, strengthen relationships, and bond. They also provide you with the best opportunity to stay informed about your teen’s life, challenges, and potential issues. Finally, whether children feel they have time to “simply hang out and talk” with their parents each day has a significant impact on their happiness and overall performance. For more info about dinner, go here.
  • Make sure you check in each and every day. After supper or shortly before bed, having a little discussion can keep you alert and create an atmosphere of open dialogue. Even teenagers who appear to have lost track of their parents during the other 23 hours of the day frequently respond favorably to a goodnight embrace and a check-in conversation once they are in bed. Establish a regular weekly plan for doing something special with your teen, even if it’s simply going out for ice cream or taking a stroll together, in addition to these brief daily check-ins.
  • As your child gets older, your relationship may change. Spend time together doing routine activities. The adolescent years are fun and thrilling. Enjoy yourself; they’ll soon be adults. Tell them you’ll be there for them but within limit of human rights, safety & security related rules & regulations.
  • Avoid provoking disobedience by refusing to accept that your child is maturing and requires more freedom. But don’t be reluctant to inquire about your children’s whereabouts, companions, and activities. Get to know the parents and friends of your children’s pals so you are aware of their activities. If you don’t know what’s going on, you lose all hope of influencing the outcome.
  • If you will not punish your child when raising, he’ll probably be close to you. He won’t lie to you and won’t frequently step beyond of your boundaries because he doesn’t want to jeopardies your mutual trust. Ask him how he can make repairs, including restoring your trust, if he does.
• Encourage & Give Safely Free hands
  • Everyone needs alone time. Teenagers require their own space, alone time, and the freedom to not divulge every detail of their lives to their parents. Consider your teen’s right to privacy while keeping in mind how it felt to be a teen.
  • Praise is vital, but so is encouraging your adolescent and showing interest in them. Give them credit for their efforts and let them know when they make an effort that you appreciate. Even if you receive no answer, don’t be scared to let them know that you love them.
• Safe Use of Gadgets – Computer, Mobile Phones
  • Because teenagers typically know more about computers than we do, it can be challenging for parents to monitor what their children do online. But according to study, if the computer is in a common place of home where you can stroll by and take a quick peek at what he’s doing, he’ll be less tempted to spend time doing activities you wouldn’t approve of.
  • Nowadays, kids spend most of their time online, but if it’s in the centre of your home, he may keep in touch with his family.
  • Some of Apps can be blocked OR We can allow within limited periods of time.

• Your Life Experiences Matters for him
  • Admit your errors and explain some of the things you would have done differently if given the chance. Don’t overprotect them; instead, let them experience the results of their actions and learn from them.
  • Use the occasions when you see that your adolescent is struggling or showing a lack of knowledge in a particular area to teach them new life lessons. Give children many opportunities to practise being autonomous and responsible. Focusing on positive, constructive behaviours today will help your teen learn how to take care of themselves in the future.
• No Punishment for Rule Breaking
  • It’s never too late to teach her to accept responsibility, but she must first cherish your connection. Therefore, you must quit punishing and start conversing and listening instead. Additionally, you must insist that she find a means to fix things. It’s a tough dance since you still want her to select the penalty even though she knows it would only make the situation worse. No, it is not a punishment; rather, it is a chance for her to correct her mistakes, which is a skill that all adults must have. However, she won’t comprehend it in this way unless she wants to win your favour, therefore if you both need to attend therapy create that relationship, don’t hesitate.
• Gradually Migration to Outside World with your Supports & Touch
  • She will remain fiercely connected to us even when her attention turns to classmates, high school, and the passions that make her soul sing if we have acknowledged our child’s dependency requirements and affirmed her development into her own unique person.
  • As teens get older, it’s normal for them to prefer their friends to their parents, but children who are firmly rooted in their families will welcome parental efforts to maintain ties with them. And even if it takes a lot of work, parents who have formed strong bonds with their kids at each previous stage will feel involved enough in their teenagers to maintain contact.
  • It’s crucial for parents to continue serving as their kids’ moral and emotional guides during the adolescent years. Children will start experimenting with intimate connections outside of the family, but for that to work, they still need their intimate relationships at home to be stable. This implies that a 14-year-old with a strong external focus is likely seeking something that he wasn’t getting at home.
  • We must encourage our kids to rely on us emotionally until they are mature enough to rely on themselves. We allow teenagers to transfer their reliance outside of the house much too frequently in our culture, and this has severe repercussions. Teenagers frequently give up a lot of who they are in order to have the intimacy they want, only to discover that other teenagers can’t provide them with the resources they need to develop into autonomous young adults because they aren’t ready to have that connection yet. Even if you might not be at the top of your teen’s list right now, put in a lot of effort to maintain your relationship with them and don’t assume that they won’t eventually distance themselves from you. That indicates a broken connection. Never give up. It’s never too late in your relationship with your child to do repair work and move closer.

Parenting isn’t easy. Teenage years can be particularly challenging since teenagers might exhibit adult-like behaviour one minute and child-like behaviour the next. Sometimes happy & suddenly unhappy.

So, I thought above some of the tips may helpful.

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Note: Above views are written for the guidance purpose only. Some cases may not be related to each one of teenager child. Based on Geography, Religions, beliefs, living style it may be differ. Before adopting any of guidelines kindly review, rethink its suitability.

Ultimately our purpose of this write up is to make eco system for developing ideal citizens of whole society.